“What is love?” That, my friends, is the million dollar question that many theorists, philosophers, and great poets have tried to answer. Here we are, thousands-some-odd years later, still blissfully clueless and accepting whatever wonky definition Cosmopolitan throws at us. But why? We ought to have some sort of concrete idea of what love is, yet every time we near the finish line, the goal post gets moved further. Maybe it’s because love is too great to be confined to one meaning.
Love has the power to create or destroy whatever is in its path. It does not conform to the limits of time, nor does it bow to the expectations of reality. Love is meaningless without actions and an infinite journey of commitment—it comes in the form of someone that makes us look forward to the boring Wednesday nights as much as the promised days of happily ever after. It can make you do some crazy things (like root for the Eagles in the playoffs), but also forces you to let your guard down.
Love weaves its own web from our emotions into the hearts of others.
Love (or what we think it is) may also have a very dark/dangerous side to it; it can trap someone for years in unhealthy habits that encourage self-depletion. Love can seriously have you in a corner rocking back and forth trying not to pull a “Brandi Web” (if you know, you know). It creates an obsession and preys on the hearts of the hopeful and hopelessly romantic.
Our world view becomes heavily distorted because of what we believe to be love. It can convince us abuse is normal. It can convince us we are not good enough and that we are undeserving. It comes with a hefty price of trusting another person to handle you with care.
Whether you believe in love or not, you cannot deny its impact on our lives. The world runs on love, whether it be of money, power, other people, or ourselves. Everyday is another opportunity to experience and learn love. I don’t have much to tell about my personal journey with love, as I am just starting. But I still have a lifetime and a day to explore all of its beautiful melodrama.